In life you are always given choices, options to do this or that, and within these decisions lies an effect of the action. Sometimes we make the right choice, sometimes the wrong choice. At other times the choice is irrelevant. Regardless of where you are in life, you will not get where you want to be without owing up to your actions.
When I was in the Milwaukee Fire Academy they made sure that we understood the concept of trust. Not only in trusting your brothers and sisters in life threating situations, but also trust in day-to-day activities. You were responsible for your actions and the consequences of trying to cover up poor decisions with lies often lead to harsher penalties.
This goes with anything in life. From the trust your teammates, significant other, or parents have in you, you must not take this lightly. It is far easier to be dishonest. Sometimes you may think this is the right this to do, however, guilt will get you or the truth will come out. Once this happens, you will realize that all the trust you once had is now lost. Rebuilding this trust is always far more difficult than establishing trust in the first place.
The smallest infraction, if dishonest about, can lead to the largest of consequences. If you miss curfew you may become grounded or your curfew may result in your returning home earlier. If you lie to your coach about your off-season training come training camp you may be cut; not only because you were out of shape, but because the coach knew you were dishonest. Marriages that end in divorce are usually the result of numerous lies that mount over time.
I have committed these faults numerous times, as I am sure many of you have. The reasoning behind it is always different, unique to the situation. Sometimes you feel ashamed. Sometimes scared. Sometimes you flat out lie. Whatever the reason, it needs to stop. There is no way you will get ahead in ANY of your relationships if you cannot own up to your actions and deal with the consequences. This traverses age, race, gender or creed.
Be open, be honest. It starts with you. You have to be honest about your expectations of the situations that arise in your life. You have to be willing to accept the consequence of your decision without excuse. When you can come to terms with that on a personal level, it is easier to be honest with others. Working on personal accountability and honesty will be more difficult than be honest with friends, relatives, significant others, teammates, etc.
Before you face a difficult decision have your personal expectations set. Do not budge them for anyone and be honest with yourself. If you feel ashamed or scared about making a decision, understand why this is and evaluate the consequences of being honest with those around you. Once you feel comfortable doing this, the decision will have already been made and you will feel confident in being open and honest through the effects of your decision.